Freedom and Responsibility

Freedom and Responsibility

To be free is to take responsibility for your own happiness.

Today we tend to delegate to others choices we alone are responsible for. We delegate our children’s and our own education to school, we delegate our emotions to a psychologist, we delegate our happiness to someone else’s love for us, we delegate our reason to politicians and our culture to experts.

When we delegate we think we are getting rid of the responsibility. Once you send your son to school, it’s not your fault any more if he doesn’t learn, once someone loves you it’s not on you any more to remember to love yourself, once an expert declares something, you don’t have to interrogate yourself so much about it any more, and it’s not on you if the expert, and you with him, turns out to be wrong.

Delegating makes us feel like the weight of responsibility is not pushing down on our shoulders any more.

But that is just a wrong impression. Delegation doesn’t take away the responsibility, it just makes us feel justified for ignoring it.

When we delegate our education or our happiness to someone else, we are responsible not only for the choice to delegate, but also for every choice that other person makes for us.

Responsibility is always on us, we can decide to leave it to someone else to influence it or we can own it. But it’s there, it makes us responsible for everything that happens to us.

Once we own it, accept it, we are free. Then there are no sacrifices and no mistakes, there are no faults of others: everything is a choice, and everything is our choice.

Being free is not just rainbows and joy, freedom is a difficult thing to live with. Freedom means that if you’re unhappy it’s on you and you alone. Happiness is your own responsibility and shouldn’t depend on anyone else. Success is your own responsibility and shouldn’t depend on anything else. Life is your own, and no one can lead yours but you.

That’s not an easy concept.

People deny it, but freedom is a “hard” choice to make, it takes courage and determination, it takes strength and passion. It’s so much easier to keep delegating, so very less complicated to just follow the mass and standardise. Doing what you’re told or expected to do is easy, deciding what to do from scratch is not.

 

Once you are free and responsible for your life, you learn there are no failures, only lessons, and there are no sacrifices, only choices, and there are no duties, only passions, and there are no mistakes, only life.

Not because freedom is easy, but because a free life is happy even in the darkest and most difficult moments.

Quotes Wall: Albert Camus


 

I knew a man who gave twenty years of his life to a scatterbrained woman, sacrificing everything to her, his friendships, his work, the very respectability of his life and who one evening recognized that he had never loved her. He had been bored, thats all, bored like most people. Hence he had made himself out of whole cloth a life full of complications and drama. Something must happen and that explains most human commitments. Something must happen even loveless slavery, even war or death. 

 

The only way to deal with an unfree world is to become so absolutely free that your very existence is an act of rebellion.

 

We don’t have the time to completely be ourselves. We only have the room to be happy.

 

Real generosity towards the future lies in giving all to the present.

 

The purpose of a writer is to keep civilization from destroying itself.

 

People hasten to judge in order not to be judged themselves.

 

Nobody realizes that some people expend tremendous energy merely to be normal.

 

At the heart of all beauty lies something inhuman.

 

Fiction is the lie through which we tell the truth.

 

– quotes by Albert Camus

 


Quotes Wall: Jonathan Livingston Seagull by Richard Bach


 

Heaven is not a place, and it is not a time. Heaven is being perfect. -And that isn’t flying a thousand miles an hour, or a million, or flying at the speed of light. Because any number is a limit, and perfection doesn’t have limits. Perfect speed, my son, is being there.

 

Don’t believe what your eyes are telling you. All they show is limitation. Look with your understanding. Find out what you already know and you will see the way to fly.

 

“Your whole body, from wingtip to wingtip,” Jonathan would say, other times, “is nothing more than your thought itself, in a form you can see. Break the chains of your thought, and you break the chains of your body, too.”

 

He was not bone and feather but a perfect idea of freedom and flight, limited by nothing at all.

 

You have the freedom to be yourself, your true self, here and now, and nothing can stand in your way.

 

To fly as fast as thought, to anywhere that is, you must begin by knowing that you have already arrived.

 

You have to practice and see the real gull, the good in every one of them, and to help them see it in themselves.
That’s what I mean by love.

 

Overcome space, and all we have left is Here.
Overcome time, and all we have left is Now.

 

We choose our next world through what we learn in this one. Learn nothing, and the next world is the same as this one, all the same limitations and lead weights to overcome.

 

– quotes from “Jonathan Livingston Seagull” by Richard Bach

 


The Danish Girl: A ballet of freedom

 The Danish Girl brings on screen the real story of one of the first women to undergo the gender reassignment surgery.

Lili is a beautiful woman trapped in a male body, her strenght shows as the one of a butterfly breaking the cocoon to bring colours in the world. Her strenght is elegant and shy at times, but fierce and certain.

The main actor gifts us with a breathtaking performance, he dances in Lili’s clothes offering a very good representation of transgender people.

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Quotes Wall: 1984 by George Orwell Part 2


 

War is peace. Freedom is slavery.  Ignorance is strength.

 

Power is in tearing human minds to pieces and putting them together again in new shapes of your own choosing.

 

But if thought corrupts language, language can also corrupt thought.

 

It’s a beautiful thing, the destruction of words.

 

Being in a minority, even in a minority of one,
did not make you
mad.
There was truth and there was untruth, and if you clung to
the truth even against the whole world,
you were not mad.

 

We do not merely destroy our enemies; we change them.

 

If you can feel that staying human is worth while, even when it can’t have any result whatever, you’ve beaten them.

 

The masses never revolt of their own accord, and they never
revolt merely because they are oppressed. Indeed, so long as they
are not permitted to have standards of comparison, they never
even become aware that they are oppressed.

 

To die hating them, that was freedom.

 

Reality exists in the human mind, and nowhere else. Not in the
individual mind, which can make mistakes, and in any case soon
perishes: only in the mind of the Party, which is collective and
immortal. 

 

The end was contained in the beginning.

 

The essential act of war is destruction, not necessarily of human lives, but of the products of human labour. War is a way of shattering to pieces, or pouring into the stratosphere, or sinking in the depths of the sea, materials which might otherwise be used to make the masses too comfortable, and hence, in the long run, too intelligent.

 

Tragedy, he percieved, belonged to the ancient time, to a time
when there were still privacy, love, and friendship, and when the
members of a family stood by one another without needing to
know the reason. 

 

– quotes from “1984” by George Orwell

 


Quotes Wall: 1984 George Orwell


 

He who controls the past controls the future.
He who controls the present controls the past.

 

Doublethink means the power of holding two contradictory beliefs in one’s mind simultaneously, and accepting both of them.

 

For, after all, how do we know that two and two make four?
Or that the force of gravity works?
Or that the past is unchangeable?
If both the past and the external world exist only in the mind,
and if the mind itself is controllable – what then? 

 

Orthodoxy means not thinking–not needing to think.
Orthodoxy is unconsciousness. 

 

The object of persecution is persecution.
The object of torture is torture.
The object of power is power. 

 

Until they became conscious they will never rebel,
and until after they have rebelled they cannot become conscious.

 

In the face of pain there are no heroes. 

 

Freedom is the freedom to say that two plus two make four. If
that is granted, all else follows.

 

– quotes from “1984” by George Orwell