Messaggio alle famiglie (wannabe)homeschooler italiane

Here’s a message from myself to the Italian families who want to try home-education.

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L’homeschooling sta piano piano prendendo piede in Italia, se ne sente parlare di più, e, nonostante sia ancora una “novità” per la maggioranza, più famiglie iniziano ad interessarsi. Eppure non si è ancora chiarito cosa voglia dire fare homeschooling – non che si possa chiarire in maniera assoluta, in fondo siamo tutti diversi.
La definizione generale è quella di scuola parentale, la spiegazione più gettonata è quella di “percorso alternativo di apprendimento”, il discorso più frequente riguarda la libertà dei bambini, il loro interesse innato e la possibilità di trovare insegnamento in ogni aspetto della vita.
Molti homeschooler dicono che l’homeschooling è libertà. Libertà di apprendere, libertà di vivere fuori da quel sistema che è la scuola, libertà di scegliere, libertà di decidere per la propria educazione.
Quello che quasi tutti dimenticano, quello che sfugge alla maggior parte delle famiglie che considerano la possibilità di intraprendere questo percorso, è che…

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Freedom and Responsibility

Freedom and Responsibility

To be free is to take responsibility for your own happiness.

Today we tend to delegate to others choices we alone are responsible for. We delegate our children’s and our own education to school, we delegate our emotions to a psychologist, we delegate our happiness to someone else’s love for us, we delegate our reason to politicians and our culture to experts.

When we delegate we think we are getting rid of the responsibility. Once you send your son to school, it’s not your fault any more if he doesn’t learn, once someone loves you it’s not on you any more to remember to love yourself, once an expert declares something, you don’t have to interrogate yourself so much about it any more, and it’s not on you if the expert, and you with him, turns out to be wrong.

Delegating makes us feel like the weight of responsibility is not pushing down on our shoulders any more.

But that is just a wrong impression. Delegation doesn’t take away the responsibility, it just makes us feel justified for ignoring it.

When we delegate our education or our happiness to someone else, we are responsible not only for the choice to delegate, but also for every choice that other person makes for us.

Responsibility is always on us, we can decide to leave it to someone else to influence it or we can own it. But it’s there, it makes us responsible for everything that happens to us.

Once we own it, accept it, we are free. Then there are no sacrifices and no mistakes, there are no faults of others: everything is a choice, and everything is our choice.

Being free is not just rainbows and joy, freedom is a difficult thing to live with. Freedom means that if you’re unhappy it’s on you and you alone. Happiness is your own responsibility and shouldn’t depend on anyone else. Success is your own responsibility and shouldn’t depend on anything else. Life is your own, and no one can lead yours but you.

That’s not an easy concept.

People deny it, but freedom is a “hard” choice to make, it takes courage and determination, it takes strength and passion. It’s so much easier to keep delegating, so very less complicated to just follow the mass and standardise. Doing what you’re told or expected to do is easy, deciding what to do from scratch is not.

 

Once you are free and responsible for your life, you learn there are no failures, only lessons, and there are no sacrifices, only choices, and there are no duties, only passions, and there are no mistakes, only life.

Not because freedom is easy, but because a free life is happy even in the darkest and most difficult moments.

“No Gender” School: scared people seek safety in sexism

The gender theory had its moment of scandal and success last year with its purpose to teach children about gender identity. It brought scandal and indignation among the close-minded people in Italy, it caused more fear and hatred than agreement or curiosity, the only supporters coming from LGBT communities. And even the little support it gained didn’t come from good reasoning but from the mere wish to stand against old prejudice.

What it clumsily attempted to do was to teach children that it’s okay to be “feminine” if you’re a boy or “masculine” if you’re a girl, it is okay to be how you want to and dress and act as you like. The intent was to stop the discrimination derived from old sexist prejudice over appearance and behaviour.

But it was expressed in an impulsive and to some level aggressive manner with an unclear proposal that sounded complicated and useless. It was handled poorly and the only real effect was to irate the common people with their common closed minds.

Some felt threatened by this attempt at social evolution and rushed for shelter back under those old bigot concepts. The old worn out teaching A woman must not wear men’s clothing, nor a man wear women’s clothing, for the LORD your God detests anyone who does this” (Deuteronomy 22:5). It is ridiculous nowadays to believe in such pattern, and yet the fear of progress brings back tradition and prejudice.

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U.S. Elections 2016 – Donald Trump is president

 

The election of Donald Trump is not worrying because of the man who got the power. Mr. Trump is just another despicable man in a world full of those. The problem with this election is the knowledge that almost half the States agrees with Mr. Trump’s discriminatory ideas and behaviour.

Three days after the elections so many cases have already been reported of people attacking others with justifications such as “We have a new president”, “Trump won’t protect you”. It’s not like attacks, bullism and violence weren’t there before, discrimination has always been there and has always been a concrete danger. But now, all those hateful people, who didn’t dare act on that hate because afraid of the consequences, might feel somehow protected by the new president, may feel justified because they are acting on the same ideas Mr. Trump supported during his electoral campaign.

Mr. Trump won’t do all the things he threatened and promised, but the people probably will. A president represents the ideology of a Country, that might be right or wrong, but effectively the president of the U.S.A. represents the States and their position. When the president is someone who supports and emboldens discrimination, the people will feel entitled to act on his words, and they will feel protected by the knowledge that the president shares their ideas.

That, of course, is not okay. Mr. Trump’s behaviour during the campaign was not alright either, he indirectly – and some would say even directly – encouraged crimes and criminal ideologies. As a politician, that should feature as a crime in itself.

When in a country criminals feel protected by the established authority, while honest people feel scared, something is incredibly wrong.

I wouldn’t normally talk politics on my blog, but this elections have a massive social effect, and that is something I should talk about. Because it is not okay to support discrimination, no matter against who.

Quotes Wall: Bukowski Part 2


 

the choice
is yours,
he said,
morals died with God,
you’re on your
own.

 

life has abused me and I have mis-
used it.
I enjoy attacking the sun with a
squirt gun.

 

the word is one of
the most
powerful miracles
in
existence,
it can enlighten or
destroy
minds,
nations,
cultures.

 

by the time they get to your books you
are no longer in your
books.

you are on the next page,
in your next
book.

 

a killing unhappiness:
never knowing
what you might have
been.

 

our world
it’s strange, isn’t it?
you can’t
compare it to
anything else
yet you quickly
learn
that there is
something wrong
with it
and with the people
that
inhabit it.

 

the human voice besides being basically
ugly also reminds me of the human
race
and one of the last things I want to
think of and one of the first things I
want to get away from when I listen to
classical music is
the human
race.

 

the same all murderous kiss
of death clothed in a creative
art.

 

I became a writer but when I was a boy
I used to dream of becoming the village idiot

 

– quotes by Charles Bukowski

 


 

Quotes Wall: His Dark Materials by Philip Pullman


 

Then Lyra gave a cry so passionate that even in that muffled, mist-hung world it raised an echo, but of course it wasn’t an echo, it was the other part of her crying in turn from the land of the living as Lyra moved away into the land of the dead. “My heart, Will …” she groaned, and clung to him, her wet face contorted with pain. And thus the prophecy that the Master of Jordan College had made to the Librarian, that Lyra would make a great betrayal and it would hurt her terribly, was fulfilled.

 

“We are all subject to the fates. But we must all act as if we are not,” said the witch, “or die of despair.” 

 

“I told him I was going to betray you, and betray Lyra, and he believed me because I was corrupt and full of wickedness…. I wanted him to find no good in me and he didn’t. There is none. But I love Lyra. Where did this love come from? I don’t know; it came to me like a thief in the night, and now I love her so much my heart is bursting with it. All I could hope was that my crimes were so monstrous that the love was no bigger than a mustard seed in the shadow of them, and I wished I’d committed even greater ones to hide it more deeply still…”

 

And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.

 

The intentions of a tool are what it does. A hammer intends to strike, a vise intends to hold fast, a lever intends to lift. They are what it is made for. But sometimes a tool may have other uses that you don’t know. Sometimes in doing what you intend, you also do what the knife intends, without knowing.

 

“For a human being, nothing comes naturally,” said Grumman. “We have to learn everything we do.”

– quotes from “His Dark Materials” by Philip Pullman

 


Quotes Wall: Albert Camus


 

I knew a man who gave twenty years of his life to a scatterbrained woman, sacrificing everything to her, his friendships, his work, the very respectability of his life and who one evening recognized that he had never loved her. He had been bored, thats all, bored like most people. Hence he had made himself out of whole cloth a life full of complications and drama. Something must happen and that explains most human commitments. Something must happen even loveless slavery, even war or death. 

 

The only way to deal with an unfree world is to become so absolutely free that your very existence is an act of rebellion.

 

We don’t have the time to completely be ourselves. We only have the room to be happy.

 

Real generosity towards the future lies in giving all to the present.

 

The purpose of a writer is to keep civilization from destroying itself.

 

People hasten to judge in order not to be judged themselves.

 

Nobody realizes that some people expend tremendous energy merely to be normal.

 

At the heart of all beauty lies something inhuman.

 

Fiction is the lie through which we tell the truth.

 

– quotes by Albert Camus